It was brought to my attention yesterday that some singles STILL think it’s OK to talk about their ex on a first date. WHAT?! Enough about your ex!!!
There are things you just don’t talk about or go in to detail on when on a first date. Or a second date, or even a third date. Your ex is one of those topics. Shhhhhhh……. your date doesn’t want to hear about it!
Whether you’re not over your ex, you hate their guts, or you have children together, stay away from this subject for AT LEAST the first date or two. If you are really vibing and getting in to deep conversation, you could potentially talk about past relationships in general – what you do or don’t want in a new relationship, etc – as long as you stay general and neutral. Don’t complain (“My ex-girlfriend was WAY too high maintenance. I HATE that”), don’t offer ultimatums (“If my man can’t bring me flowers weekly I’m done. My ex-boyfriend NEVER bought me anything”), and don’t get specific about an ex (“Our sex life just wasn’t doing it for me”).
Exes usually include baggage and negativity. There is no room for either of those on a first or second date (or in a relationship in general, ideally. But not realistically). And if your ex doesn’t conjure negativity but positivity instead, you’ll be leaving your date thinking you’re not over them yet.
If you want to continue dating someone, leave the ex conversations alone for awhile. Wait AT LEAST 4-5 dates to talk about them, and when you do, remember this: Less is More. Be vague. Don’t ever say so much that you leave your date thinking “Good Lord – enough about your ex!”
Lots of Love,
Emily

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